8 Signs your Best Friend could be sabotaging your relationship

November 26
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You never lose friends, you just realize who the real ones are.

Imagine you’re loving being a love bug in your amazing new relationship, everything is rosy and peachy, you feel all the butterflies that people write songs about… but your best friend’s constantly there to burst your bubble by being snarky and a big fat weirdo. If you’re reading this, you do have a friend who you suspect could be getting too involved in your relationship. 

Before we jump into the troubled waters of envy, friendship, and relationship; just remember that people who rain on your parade are just jealous of your sunshine and tired of their own shade. 

Do you have friends who’ll be there for you when the rain starts to pour? Let’s find out!

Your friend keeps bringing up your past relationship

If you’re hanging out with your BFF and your new love, and the former finds odd ways of bringing up your embarrassing past relationships or exes, then be alert. They might dig up your old secrets and present that to your partner in form of humor. It’s disrespectful to both of you.

Your friend thinks your date is not good enough

Hey listen, if you’re happy, that’s all that should matter right? If you all head over heels for this dude, and your friend thinks otherwise, then there’s something off. By off, I mean they might be trying to ruin your relationship. 

Your friend encourages unfaithful moves

If they’re constantly pushing you to indulge in one-night stands, introducing their single friends, dragging you to a singles-only bar, and basically encouraging adultery moves, then it’s time to take a step back and rethink your company. They clearly don’t want your relationship evolving into something better.

Your friend makes flirtatious innuendos on your partner

Oooh, this is the worst kind! In an era where women need to have each other’s back, there are some rotten apples in the bunch who stab you from behind. But how do you tell if your friend is being friendly or flirty with your partner? If they put you down, call your partner and talk for hours, invite them over without you, there’s a good chance your friend is getting too involved and wants to wedge a knife in between you two. 

Your friend makes you ignore your lover

A true friend is the one who gives you your personal space to connect with your new partner and get to know each other better. Instead, if they are keeping you engrossed in meaningless conversation or distracting you when your partner needs your attention, maybe it’s time to make some new friends.

Your friend disrespects your partner

If your friend talks lowly of your partner, who you find perfect, they don’t mean well. It could be dissing their choice of clothes, the car they drive, questioning their choices… it’s highly disrespectful and puts you in a juxtaposition and can drive your partner away from you as well.

Your friend speaks ill of you

If your friend threatens to reveal your dirty secrets, disrespects you in front of your date, or constantly pulls insulting jokes on you… it’s not cool! They should help you impress your date and win over them, not make you look bad. So, if they’re doing it, you’re better off without them.

Your friend blows small fights out of proportion

Every couple has their differences, and as a friend, they should have your back but try to find a sensible solution and not add fuel to the already burning fire. So, if you ever feel your friend seems more upset than you in the fight, they’re faking it. They just want to make things look worse than they are.

Have you ever been in a position where you had to choose between a friend and your date? What would you do if you find out your best friend of years is not a big fan of you being happy in love? Let us know down in the comments below.